Dating your ex husband

19-Jun-2017 16:43

I don’t really believe in regrets – and so much good has come from this experience – but if I could go back to 2008 I would have stopped having contact with her after her first hostile email.Granted, there was no way I could have known what I was in store for. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is real and can occur after being exposed to continued harassment.My husband and I have been together 3 years, married for 2! When I was around 5 months pregnant, I went through his phone and found him talking to girls but he said that they were just friends he worked with.Since then, I have caught him on porn sites, dating sites, F*ckbook, live porn shows, and this & that.I would block her from email periodically, but never consistently.And this was my mistake – allowing her back in over and over again.That she’d see me for who I am instead of the person she believed me to be. I tried explaining myself, correcting her misperceptions, etc…

It was as if, before ever meeting me, her mind created this horrible person and she placed that image, like a mask, onto me.He said throwing a tissue away as he is throwing his phone on the bed. So I reach down and he is exposed and erect so I was like “yeah, you’re really throwing something away.” We fought, he took his phone and slammed it on the ground and shattered it then had me (5 months pregnant) shoved up on the wall yelling at me because I caught him.I couldn’t trust him and I still can’t trust him because I’ve caught him on it multiple times after.My husband had 50/50 custody, with the boys going back and forth almost every other day.But if I could have seen the future, I would have lovingly told my husband he needed to figure out how to make this work without me ever having contact with his ex.

It was as if, before ever meeting me, her mind created this horrible person and she placed that image, like a mask, onto me.He said throwing a tissue away as he is throwing his phone on the bed. So I reach down and he is exposed and erect so I was like “yeah, you’re really throwing something away.” We fought, he took his phone and slammed it on the ground and shattered it then had me (5 months pregnant) shoved up on the wall yelling at me because I caught him.I couldn’t trust him and I still can’t trust him because I’ve caught him on it multiple times after.My husband had 50/50 custody, with the boys going back and forth almost every other day.But if I could have seen the future, I would have lovingly told my husband he needed to figure out how to make this work without me ever having contact with his ex.Years later it would become obvious that nothing I could ever do or say would change her image of me.